May 13, 2006

When is Adoption an Option?

To continue with my thoughts from yesterday...

Yes, if I was raped and impregnated, I would have an abortion. Years ago, in discussing this hypothetical situation, my answer probably would have been "give the baby up for adoption." However, I do not feel now this would be a viable option, for the following reasons.

1) The idea of the pregnancy in and of itself is repulsive to me. Why should I be forced to house and gestate a parasite placed in me via a criminal, humiliating, degrading procedure? The act of getting pregnant is nothing I contributed to--it's simply my female body, unfortunately, doing what female bodies have done for thousands of years. This doesn't mean my rational self has to give in to it.

2) Pregnancy is not a cakewalk, and babies are bloody expensive. Of course, the adoptive parents would pay for the delivery fees and at least some of the prenatal care. But what if there's some sort of complication (gestational diabetes, pre-eclampsia, etc.)? Why should I put myself through that?

3) Why should I take the risk that in eighteen or twenty years, the child will come bouncing back into my life, demanding to estabish a relationship? Look, I didn't want anything to do with you before you were born, and I sure as hell don't now.

No, adoption would not be for me.

I'm sure some will say, "As a Christian, you have to choose life." As I noted below, I'm willing to take the heat for the choices I make.

Because I'm choosing my life, not an unwanted parasite.

1 comment:

Nicki said...

Like the blog. and love this post!